#382: Grieving California

Excellent articles on climate grief, fat shaming, and veterinarians’ mental health

Except for a one-year stint in Boston and a four-week stint in New York, I’ve lived in California my whole life. I was born here, was raised here, went to college here, and have spent nearly my whole adulthood here. But for some reason, I don’t strongly identify with my state. For example: Please don’t ask me how many times I’ve been to Yosemite, or gone on road trips up or down the coast, or exactly where Big Sur is.

Lately, though, I’ve felt more California pride. Maybe it’s because people are leaving the state and I’m feeling defensive. Or maybe it’s that I’m appreciating recent trips to Santa Cruz and the Sierras. Or maybe it’s that I’m grateful for California’s natural beauty and I’m finally not taking it for granted.

Whatever it is, I’m finding myself reading more articles about the state of my state. One of them is this week’s lead article, “Grieving California,” which reminded me of the ravages of climate change and the human consequences of loss. Especially if you’re from California, I encourage you to read the piece.

If California doesn’t interest you, or if climate-related articles feel too doomsday, scroll on down to take in the pet photo and two other great articles. The first is about the simultaneous trends of body positivity and fat shaming, while the second is about the mental health of veterinarians. Please enjoy!

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1️⃣ Grieving California

A building that burns can be rebuilt. But if fire incinerates a state of mind, can that be put back together? After neighbors move, new homes rise from the ones that burned, and the landscape is marked by the fingerprints of flames – the time before can feel like a past life. It’s the kind of rupture that transcends space and time, shaping our memories, our goals for the future and even our understanding of where we belong. Part of living here now means grappling with apocalyptic scenes and with whether this version of California can still be called home.

You don’t have to be from California to appreciate this beautifully written article, in which Erica Hellerstein explores the trauma people have experienced as a result of the massive wildfires that have plagued the state. Rather than focusing on the despondent, however, Ms. Hellerstein devotes her energy to show what people are doing to understand and process their emotions. “It’s really important to know that climate distress is not a pathology,” says Robin Cooper, the co-founder of the Climate Psychiatry Alliance, which is developing resources and therapies to help people deal with the psychological impact of climate change.

Similar work is happening in California schools. A recent survey revealed that 3,000 students in Sonoma County are still showing “increased anxiety, stress, depression, behavioral problems, or decreased academic performance as a result of the 2017 Tubbs wildfire.” Educators there have used resources from the Good Grief Network, a 10-step, peer support program to help people process their climate grief.

Most importantly, Ms. Hellerstein emphasizes that you don’t have to be a survivor of a climate catastrophe to feel the calamitous effects of climate change. If you’re feeling dislocated or distressed or disillusioned, you’re not alone. (28 min)

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2️⃣ Fat Shaming Shouldn’t Be Part Of Our ’New Normal

I went to the doctor this week. We talked about my weight. I said I’m happy with my current relationship with food. He said I should lose a few pounds. The exchange reminded me of this thoughtful essay, written at the height of the pandemic, in which Erika Thorkelson wonders why the rise of body positivity has corresponded with an increase in Instagram advertisements urging us to watch our weight. “Despite gentle shifts toward fat acceptance in the last few years,” Ms. Thorkelson writes, “it’s clear our culture remains obseesed with controlling our bodies.” She adds:

Poor and working-class women, like those in my family, were often encouraged to look to their weight as the source of their problems rather than the larger forces of structural issues like misogyny and capitalism. If you had trouble finding a job or your husband was cheating on you, getting skinny was supposed to be the answer.

Getting skinny is apparently the answer we should be messaging to our kids, too, according to a report released last week by the American Academy of Pediatrics. It seems like we’re saying, “All bodies are beautiful, as long as they’re thin.” (14 min)

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3️⃣ Our Business Is Killing

Dr. Andrew Bullis is a veterinarian in a small town in Pennsylvania. He treats cats and dogs and chickens and pigs. He loves his job — despite the long hours, the poor compensation, and the complaints of his clients. But there’s one thing that Dr. Bullis can’t stomach, even though he does it every day: killing. More than any other procedure, vets perform euthanasia, which in most cases is the right decision for the animal. But not always, as Dr. Bullis explains in this heartbreaking story about a dog named Lacey, who crushed her leg in an accident, but who didn’t have to die. “Euthanasia gets to us,” Dr. Bullis writes. “Really gets to us.” This stress has led to significant mental health challenges for veterinarians, who die by suicide at a rate two to three times higher than the general population. (15 min)

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